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The Disaster: A Fictional Dialogue

The Disaster

The Disaster: See How Different People Reason

27th June 2022

“The Disaster” is an article designed to inform us about the frequent natural and man-made disasters that happen on Earth. Regrettably, numerous regions in Africa continue to grapple with the severe consequences of such calamities, including South Sudan, one of the newest nations confronting these challenges. Although this narrative is a piece of realistic fiction, its message remains as truthful as possible. Are you prepared to learn? If yes, then let us begin!

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The First Dialogue

In the IDP camps: We, the citizens, are weary of this. We yearn for genuine peace to escape these confines and the IDP camps within our nation. We do not cherish residing in these places, but venturing out signifies more than one could ever fathom. To leave is to face death.

In towns: That’s a misconception. We are citizens of this great nation and we do not reside in any IDP camps, yet we live and thrive, just as you do. The allure of staying in those camps is the free aid received, but it is not beneficial in the long run. Leave the centers and embrace the routine of daily life. There is no threat to your life.

In refugee camps: Those of you in the IDP camps within the country fare better than us in refugee camps abroad. We are both foreigners and refugees, which is a dual burden. The recent global crises and pandemics have hit us hard. At least you are in our homeland, with the freedom to visit shops as you please. You are not imprisoned, as evidenced by your daily shopping trips.

Renting Abroad: Actually, you are in a better position living in South Sudan or refugee camps. Those in the country, IDPs or otherwise, are still free to visit their families. However, we who reside in foreign lands endure hardships greater than those in IDP and refugee camps. Life is challenging here, outside our homeland.

The Unemployed: The only individuals who seem to be better off are those employed by the government or various NGOs, both local and international. Those of us who are refugees or internally displaced persons (IDPs) have no employment. Everyone who is jobless suffers greatly, regardless of whether they are within the country or abroad. Employment seems to bring better conditions, irrespective of one’s status as a refugee or IDP.

Government Employees: Contrary to popular belief, it’s actually those employed by NGOs who are in a better position than us government workers. We often go months without receiving our salaries, and when we do, it’s insufficient to cover basic necessities like a 10kg bag of maize flour. Despite our love for our jobs, our country, and our people, we continue to endure hardship. We are weary of this suffering; it’s undeserved. A solution is imperative. It seems all the funds are allocated to the military in our beloved nation.

NGO Employees: Actually, it’s the government workers who are better off. The government reigns supreme, controlling everything within the nation. Government employees engage in the black market, selling US dollars, making them some of the wealthiest in the country. We, the NGO workers, don’t fare any better than our counterparts in government positions.

Those Lower in the Hierarchy: It’s a misconception that all government workers enjoy the ‘national cake.’ Only those in top positions reap significant benefits. The rest of us earn modestly, and our pay isn’t regular. However, NGO employees receive consistent monthly payments in US dollars.

Top Officials: It’s a common misbelief, but even those of us in high government positions don’t earn substantial salaries. While a few may have illicitly acquired wealth, it’s neither legal nor widespread. Not all in leadership positions receive large sums of money monthly. The revenue from oil is intended for the nation’s use, not for individual government employees. The ‘national cake’ is not distributed legally among us.

Government Leadership: As the top government leadership, we do not distribute money to individuals; we utilize the funds to operate the country. Many aspects remain unknown unless one is part of the top leadership, as numerous details are confidential. It may seem likely or be a strong belief that top government officials are amassing significant wealth, but this perception is not necessarily accurate or realistic.

No individual steals their own resources. Those who misappropriate federal funds will face justice under the laws of this great nation. This may occur sooner or later if the culprits persist in diverting public funds intended for national development. Such individuals are thieves, and thievery exists within every community, not solely within the government. Thieves are present in markets and are pervasive throughout society.

National NGO Workers: Indeed, even those employed by NGOs do not earn substantial salaries unless they are foreigners. Foreign workers receive three times the compensation of national employees and often occupy the highest positions within NGOs.

Knowledge or observations are less significant than connections. Foreigners often befriend influential individuals within every organization, which facilitates their ascent to top leadership roles. There are nationals with superior expertise who are unable to secure top positions, a stark contrast to the situation in foreign countries, including neighboring ones.

Foreign NGO Workers: Being a foreigner does not guarantee a high salary unless one is female. Women have unique methods of ascending the job ladder, either through forming connections with superiors or because the superiors are inclined to offer them positions for which they may not be fully qualified. To earn a higher income or attain a managerial role within NGOs, being female is advantageous, provided one navigates the system effectively.

The Second Dialogue

Women argue that men are more privileged in this country, as they do not experience the challenges of pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, and child care, especially when financial stability is uncertain. Moreover, women endure the extreme weather to provide for their children and face hardships in refugee camps, IDP camps, and both rural and urban areas, within and outside the nation.

Men counter that they are the ones who suffer, as women, children, and the elderly have the advantage of staying at home and waiting for provisions. Men endure the struggles of military service and job hunting to support their growing families. They face death in wars, both the broader Sudanese conflict and the internal strife in South Sudan, as well as in cattle raids.

The elderly believe that the young do not suffer enough. In contrast, the aged, both men and women, endure greater hardships. They live in a state of waiting for death that does not arrive, enduring continuous pain, with life offering nothing but suffering.

Young people disagree, stating that children are the most fortunate. Children live carefree, smiling, laughing, and crying without concern. They are not burdened by life’s worries, living in the moment without thoughts of the past or future. They represent innocence and enjoy life to the fullest, seeing it as a delightful and sweet treat.

Lastly, the living claim that the dead are better off than those alive. The deceased do not recall life’s joys or sorrows; they feel nothing, existing in a state of non-life. Their existence ceased with their last breath, and they now reside in a realm of rest and eternal peace, leaving the world as it is.

The living: Indeed, those who are alive experience peace and joy. They savor life’s offerings and delights. Life is brief yet pleasurable, enjoyable, and fulfilling. It’s beneficial to pursue your dreams before passing away. The deceased have no prospects for the future; they cannot live again, at least not in this realm. If they are to exist, it must be in the next, the unknown existence. Thus, only the living can truly appreciate life, regardless of circumstances.

The rational: It is believed that those who are insane are more fortunate than the rest, for they no longer concern themselves with worldly matters. Regardless of whether they have eaten recently or possess clothing, they lead their lives unencumbered. Life is simple for them, devoid of obstacles. They have relinquished both their sense of humor and their worries about life and all its facets. Those who are mad are considered the most contented individuals on earth.

The non-existent: Those who never had the chance to experience life, including stillborn infants, are deemed more fortunate than all others. They never witnessed daylight or the sun. They passed too soon or never existed at all. They are not deceased, for they never lived. Unknown to anyone on earth, they are regarded as the happiest of beings.

Everyone seems to believe that others are better off than themselves. Those leading their daily lives think that individuals in IDP and refugee camps are faring better, while those in the camps believe the opposite is true.

The unemployed view the employed as living the good life, yet the employed may not feel as content as the unemployed imagine. The living envy the peace of the dead, but contrary opinions suggest otherwise. Workers in NGOs are perceived as prosperous, yet they envy government employees.

However, casting blame on others is futile and will not be effective in the future either. It fails to address real-life problems and instead adds to them, offering no solution to existing challenges.

The Third Dialogue

“Why do you think those residing in the UN camps, be they IDPs or refugees, are better off, Nyankir?” I inquired.

“I believe it’s because they are free. They have little to worry about. They are safe and know that at the end of the month, their allotted food ration will arrive. Thus, they have food, time, and the liberty to engage in many activities that we, who are outside the camps, cannot,” she replied.

“Would you choose to become a refugee or flee to a nearby IDP camp if conflict erupts again where you currently reside?” I questioned.

“Yes, I would have to. But I don’t want to think about fleeing again due to conflict. I’m weary of war. I was born into war; now, I’m a mother of three, all born amidst conflict. So, the thought of war is unbearable for me. However, if it recurs, as it often does, yes, I’ll seek refuge in any accessible camp,” she continued.

“Why do you believe those outside the refugee camps are better off than those within the camps, Nyanuär?” I asked.

“It’s because they live freely in their own homes. They aren’t confined to tents like we are in the camps. They have the freedom to travel anywhere, at any time, for any reason. For us, leaving the camps is difficult, especially at night or in the evening. We are guarded as if we were property. We no longer feel human because we’ve lost our sense of humanity and freedom. Being spoon-fed everything, we do not relish this captivity,” she elucidated.

You’re right, I did trim a lot of the original text. I focused on capturing the essence of each interview while keeping the overall piece concise. Here’s a revised version that incorporates some of the dialogue:

Voices from the Camp

Fear of violence kept Nyanuär trapped in the camp. “There’s still insecurity outside,” she explained, referencing the danger faced by women who ventured out. “I may not even reach my town home, let alone my village.”

Mony-jäng, yearning for a job, saw money as the key. “Any job is welcome if it has money,” he declared, emphasizing his willingness to do anything for a chance to improve his situation.

Mony-nuär offered a different perspective on wealth. He believed foreigners held an unfair advantage, gaining high positions “even if they don’t know what they are supposed to do.” He questioned if women were used to climb the ranks, but Nyanuär clarified, “I hope I’m not embarrassing anyone…females, whether foreigners or not, can and are finding their way to the top.”

Kiden pointed to the extravagant lifestyles of government officials. “They travel outside as frequently as they want…they have built big houses outside the country,” she listed. This visible wealth, she suggested, fueled the desire for political careers.

Biliw offered a somber view. “The dead are the happiest people ever,” he stated, believing they were free from pain. Even faced with death, however, his survival instinct kicked in. “No human or animal wants to die,” he admitted.

These glimpses into the lives within the camp reveal a complex tapestry of fear, hope, and the constant struggle to survive. (The names used are fictional.)

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Thanksgiving: What It Is and Why It Matters

Thanksgiving

3 Things Worthy of Our Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is a concept that warrants exploration for the many reasons we should be grateful. In collectivist societies, giving thanks is often seen as a personal obligation, integral to one’s role within the family, clan, tribe, or nation. Nonetheless, it is crucial to express gratitude to anyone who has positively impacted our lives, whether individually or collectively.

In this essay, my focus is on giving thanks to God. This emphasis does not preclude the importance of showing appreciation to our fellow humans. I propose that we extend our gratitude to inanimate objects and other living beings when appropriate. Thanksgiving is fundamentally about our disposition and outlook on life. With this understanding, let us delve into the subject.

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1. Creation

Gratitude for creation is paramount. Without it, our existence would not be possible. We are a part of God’s creation, and some believe that humans are its pinnacle, highlighting our significance in the natural world.

Yet, creation extends beyond the tangible world we interact with through our senses. It encompasses the spiritual realm, which, although invisible to our eyes, is as authentic as the physical one.

Believing this to be true, we owe our thanks to God for both the physical and spiritual realms. Our understanding of the spiritual may be limited, just as our knowledge of the physical is incomplete, but this does not diminish our need to express gratitude. We give thanks to God for the gift of creation.

2. Revelation

Revelation is the second reason to be grateful to God. Without it, we would not be able to understand God, ourselves, or our world properly. Throughout human history, God has revealed Himself in various ways. The Bible stands as one of the written records, providing a clear document to aid in understanding the Creator. Revelation represents a supernatural intervention in the physical realm.

Revelation knowledge contrasts with discovery knowledge, with the former being spiritual and the latter physical. God has revealed Himself and continues to do so in numerous ways to different individuals. One method is through the documented revelations of Himself. Additionally, He communicates with each of us through an inner voice and also uses other people and creatures to convey His messages.

3. Provisions

God’s providence is His provision to all His creatures, both physical and spiritual, visible and invisible. God grants us life and all that comes with it. We must express gratitude to God for bestowing upon us life, health, companionship, possessions, and experiences. These events are provisions, for they teach us much about God, ourselves, others, and the rest of creation.

Even when we obtain things through diligent effort, that effort is a gift of life and the chance to work. Our health is not merely a result of medical professionals, medicines, and man-made instruments; it is a gift from God. God furnishes us with all that is necessary for life. In Him, we exist and move. If this holds true, and indeed it does, then we have every reason to be grateful to God.

In addition to thanking God, we should also be grateful for events, people, animals, fish, insects, birds, reptiles, and even microbes, both benevolent and malevolent. As I pen these words, a young frog has just leapt from my foot. It had been resting on my right foot for about ten minutes before departing. It remained there, sensing the peace and love present.

There are three principal reasons to be grateful to God: creation, revelation, and provision. However, it’s also my belief that humans are not and should not be identical. If we were, it would suggest a lack of creativity on God’s part. This implies that gratitude may not come naturally to everyone. Nonetheless, this doesn’t mean that no one will feel thankful to God and His creations, our neighbors. Birds, animals, fish, reptiles, plants, insects, worms, and germs are all part of this neighborhood.

I count myself among those who praise God for His creation, revelation, and provision. I express gratitude for all His creatures, even though some may not seem friendly to us, perhaps because we do not appear friendly to them. Some may be naturally dangerous or even deadly for various reasons.

Yet, if science allows us to delve deeper into creation, we might discover our connection with the Creator and all His creatures. We are a part of creation, and in some ways, other creatures are akin to us. I hope this essay of personal reflections inspires you. May it help you view the world as it should be seen: a world created and sustained by God. I hope it gives you a reason to be thankful, regardless of your experiences.

The joy I speak of may not be easily understood or embraced by everyone, but it is attainable for those who seek it. It represents a different perspective, although many already share my views on the world. Moreover, there are individuals, places, objects, and animals that hold a special place in our lives for what they represent to us personally. Let’s be thankful.

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Southern Sudan, South Sudan, or Both?

South Sudan

Southern Sudan South Sudan or Both?: A Personal Opinion Article

Southern Sudan, South Sudan, or both? This question must be addressed both individually and collectively, regardless of whether one is South Sudanese. Since the 9th of July 2011, a decade ago, Sudan has been irrevocably changed, as the late Dr. Garang foresaw during the Comprehensive Agreement signing in 2005, before his untimely death.

A decade past, South Sudan ceased to be part of Sudan; hence, it cannot be referred to as Southern Sudan or Sudan any longer. Geographically and politically, it stands as a distinct republic.

But Does Every South Sudanese Know This Fact?

Firstly, it’s important to clarify that there is no country called Northern Sudan. Unlike the situation in Korea, which has North Korea and South Korea as two distinct nations, there is only Sudan and South Sudan. Often, there is a subconscious assumption that if there is a South Sudan, there must be a North Sudan, but this is not the case.

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However, This Is Never the Case!

Additionally, it’s important to note that in English, terms like northern, eastern, western, or southern refer to a region within the same territory or country. Hence, we are no longer referred to as Southern Sudan, implying a part of the larger entity of Sudan.

Furthermore, although the Arabic term used to denote our esteemed country suggests a connection to the South, it does not imply that we are a part of Sudan.

In Arabic, South Sudan is commonly known as Junub, which translates to ‘South’ or ‘the South’ (el Junub). It’s also worth noting that the spelling can vary as Janub, Jenub, Jinub, Jonub, or Junub, yet it consistently signifies ‘South.’ This variation is due to the absence of vowels between the letters J, N, and B in Arabic.

The Confusion

The confusion arises when the term “South” is automatically interpreted as a region within a larger entity, in this case, Sudan. It’s perfectly fine to have differing views, as it’s common to agree to disagree on various topics. However, the matter at hand is quite serious. It’s serious because it causes us to look back towards Egypt, much like the Israelites in the desert.

Yet, we have departed from the old Sudan to establish a new and distinct nation, complete with its own government, people, territory, and resources. This is crucial because without a national perspective, we cannot evolve into the nation we aim to be in the foreseeable future. A country is defined by its identity, which exists not only on paper but also in the hearts and minds of its citizens.

And I Am Trying to Create That Mind and Mentality in You!

Consider this: if you are South Sudanese by birth, you are not Sudanese, just as you are not Kenyan, Ugandan, Ethiopian, or Congolese. Each of these neighboring countries has its own distinct identity, shaped by various factors including their names and geographical locations, among others.

Should you travel to Sudan, you are required to present an entry visa, which signifies that you are a foreigner in that country. You must fulfill the entry requirements; otherwise, you will be denied entry unless you choose to do so illegally. This fact alone is quite telling. Why is there confusion when the situation is so evident?

My Message

You may be curious about the manner of my writing. The reason is straightforward and the message is simple: you are South Sudanese. Embracing a national identity makes you distinct and extraordinary, providing you with a unique identity among people of different nationalities.

Everywhere we go, we are referred to as Sudanese. Why is this the case? It is because we have not made a clear distinction between Sudan and South Sudan. Indeed, it was an oversight to include “Sudan” in our name. Perhaps we should have chosen a name like the Cush Republic, something that holds significance for us and dispels any confusion about being a separate nation from Sudan.

But There Is Still Hope!

Understanding and embracing your identity is the beacon of hope. This is the essence of my message to you. We are the Republic of South Sudan, distinct from Sudan, yet this does not sever our ties with the motherland. It simply affirms our separate nationhood.

Let the spirit of South Sudan shape your stance wherever you may be. Discontent with current leadership should not dampen your love for self or country. Change is inevitable. Cherish your identity, your homeland, and its people. Strive to create a positive legacy.

My contributions are through writing, publishing books, and translating between English, Dinka, Nuer, and Juba Arabic. I also design, develop, and maintain secure, professional, and user-friendly websites, assisting others in getting published both digitally and in print. My work transcends politics, even though my books carry historical and political undertones.

Reflect on your actions. Is your day consumed with criticism of others, of leaders? Is that your sole purpose? Recognize who you are and the essence of your country. Consider these thoughts. I am currently penning a satire titled ‘The Bleeding Scars.’ I would appreciate your perspective on it.

About The Author

John Monyjok Maluth, also known as Wiyua̱l Tut Lew or John Shalom, is a multifaceted South Sudanese personality. He is an author, blogger, motivational speaker, social media marketer, translator, web designer, and publisher. An introvert at heart, John cherishes peace and harmony among individuals as well as between humans and nature. His love for his homeland, South Sudan, its people, and its natural wealth is profound.

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Procrastinating: Thoughts On Why People Procrastinate About Writing

Procrastinating

Learn Why You Should Start Writing or Quit Procrastinating About It Altogether

Procrastinating is an article that aims to help us understand why many people ask questions but fail to take action, even after receiving answers. These are my personal thoughts on the matter. I cannot fathom how some individuals can continue to procrastinate for years on end, while others may do so for shorter periods of time. Nevertheless, every person who procrastinates has their own reasons for doing so, regardless of whether or not I approve of them.

But what are some of those reasons? Well, I do write, though not always. I don’t procrastinate about anything. I make a decision either to do it or not. I either go for or against it. But not everyone is or should be the same. This is why this opinion article is only an imagination. It’s not from my personal experience.

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Why Are You Procrastinating Now?

1. Not Knowing Enough. If I was to procrastinate, (which I don’t), one of the main reasons to do so would have been about me not knowing enough about either the subject or the language in which I have to write. I imagine most people procrastinate because they think they don’t know enough yet about the subject.

The subject may be language or the genre they wanted to write in. If English is their second or third language, people may think they don’t have enough vocabularies to write whatever they want to write. However, sometimes people may not be able to write because they don’t know enough about the subject, even if English is their native or first language.

2. Not Believing in Myself. Apart from fearing writing a post using my poor English, or lack of topic knowledge, I may also not believe in myself. This is about the ability in doing what I want to do, and in this point, to write what I want to write. Even if I know English, and I know a lot about potatoes, I may still not believe in myself that I can write anything about potatoes.

I may have no problem with writing itself, or language, but still, I may not start writing because I don’t believe I can actually do it, because I don’t believe in me being a good writer. I may fear what others will think of my work, just because I wrote it myself. The focus here is not on the work but on me, the writer.

3. Fearing Writing. Writing is hard work, and most people can imagine how hard it is before they even try it out. One of the reasons to procrastinate about writing is fearing doing the hard part of it. Others might have made me fear even more because of what they say about writing. These may be those who write their own chunks of text. They may also be those who procrastinate about writing like I do, (if I really do).

4. Not Having a Reason to Write. Yes, we do most things for a reason. I may procrastinate about writing because I may have all it takes to write, but no good reason for writing. People write to make more money; others write to make just some extra money. But maybe none of these is good enough to drive me that route.

5. Fear of Criticism. Constructive or not, criticism is more than enough a reason to make me think twice about writing, especially if I don’t believe in myself, my English, and my writing abilities. I may try to write something but the first feedback I get may prove me right, “I can’t write well.” This works best if I have already believed I can’t write better than others. If I already believe I can, then nothing will persuade me not to give it a try, but if I believe I can’t, then that negative feedback is bad enough to make me stop writing.

6. Fear of Saying Something Wrong. I may also fear writing something I love to write if I know readers will begin to paint a bad picture of me, and then judge me according to my writing. But writing is a creative piece, not always representing me, the writer. Yet, not everyone sees writing in the same way. Not every human thinks or should think in the same way. So, I may fear what others will think about me, especially in this part of the world where collectivism reigns.

7. Fear of Publishing. There are two different ways of getting published after successfully writing a book. One is the well-known ancient traditional publishing, and the second option is the modern self-publishing option. Most writers prefer to use traditional publishing, but it is still not easy to get through the barriers and gatekeepers, as Mark Dawson puts it in his training courses (See his SPF podcasts on YouTube for more information).

Self-publishing is harder than the traditional book publishing option, simply because one has to do most if not all the tasks associated with the book publishing, all by themselves. But self-publishing doesn’t mean you have to do everything alone.

8. Fear of Book Marketing. It’s one thing to write, edit, design, and publish a book, but it’s totally something else to market a book and make sales worthy of your hard work. This may be another fear, leading to my writing procrastination. Some people think before they act. They think about the whole process from writing to making sales. If they don’t see any signs of selling more books and earning a good amount of money from their writing, then they must keep thinking until things look clearer.

9. Not Having Enough Time. Time is one important factor when it comes to procrastinating on writing a book. Time is a valuable asset, and we only use it when we know we have to. If I think my language is not good enough for writing something that will make sense, then I have to decide if I really have to waste time writing it.

Because I think I don’t have time to write, (and of course I know I don’t have it), I may continue to think and procrastinate about writing. This may last for a while or forever, which is sad for those who love writing. Yeah, we all have our own ways of doing things. Maybe other things in life are more important to me than writing.

10. Being a Perfectionist. Yeah, some people are just that, perfectionists. They can’t do anything less than that, perfect. It’s okay to aim at being nearly perfect. I may procrastinate writing because I want to do it as perfectly as I can. I want to write, edit, design, and format my book perfectly. I don’t know if there’s anything like perfect when it comes to writing, but that’s how I feel about it.

I procrastinated, I am procrastinating, and I will be still procrastinating about writing in the future because I want to do it perfectly right. I don’t want to write a f*cking book, I want to write the best one ever. I want to write and edit the book and make it the best it can be. I don’t want anything short of that kind. But because I can’t, I have to keep thinking about it for a while, or forever. I may procrastinate for days, weeks, months, and years.

Do You Still Procrastinate?

Finally, these are some of the reasons I think I might procrastinate if I have to, but unfortunately, I don’t. I write, and I will be writing about anything that comes to mind. I can write about not writing. I can write about writing. I will be writing. I hope this makes sense. Can you add more reasons why you would like to procrastinate about writing? I’d love to hear from you. The author is an independent nonfiction content writer. He can be reached at info@johnshalom.com or simply by visiting his author website at johnshalom.com or on Facebook.

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The Polygamist: Why I Support Polygamy in the 21st Century

The Polygamist

Read The Polygamist and Learn Why Polygamy Isn’t Going Away Sooner

The topic of polygamy is complex and culturally diverse. Here’s a more neutral and balanced approach to the information you provided:

Polygamy: A Historical and Cultural Practice

The article “The Polygamist” explores the concept of polygamy, a marital structure where one person is married to multiple partners at the same time. It’s important to note that polygamy has existed in various cultures and throughout history.

Prevalence and Societal Views

While the text suggests polygamy is universal, it’s actually not practiced in all cultures and is often restricted by religion or law. In many societies, monogamy (marriage to one person) is the primary or only legal form of marriage.

Motivations for Polygamy

The reasons for polygamy vary across cultures and can include:

  • Social and Economic Factors: In some societies, polygamy is seen as a way to increase a family’s workforce or social standing.
  • Religious Beliefs: Certain religions endorse or even mandate polygamy.

Considering Polygamy

The text states that not all men are suited for polygamy. It’s crucial to consider the emotional and logistical challenges involved in maintaining multiple marriages. Additionally, the well-being and consent of all potential spouses should be a top priority.

Open Discussion

Polygamy is a topic that sparks debate. Encouraging research and open discussion about cultural practices, while acknowledging the legal and social realities of different regions, is important.

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LET’S HAVE A LOOK

1. Having More Children:

  • Historical Context: Polygamy was indeed practiced in many cultures to expand families and workforces. However, it’s important to acknowledge that this practice wasn’t universally accepted and often favored men.
  • Modern Relevance: While having children remains a significant aspect of marriage for many, focusing solely on this reason overlooks other factors like companionship and emotional connection.

2. Sexual Desire:

  • Cultural Sensitivity: The discomfort some cultures have regarding discussing sex is a valid point. However, the focus on procreation downplays the emotional intimacy and love often associated with marital relations.
  • Modern Perspective: In today’s world, open communication about sex and sexuality is becoming more common.

3. Dissatisfaction:

  • Equality: The text suggests dissatisfaction can lead to polygamy for both men and women. However, it doesn’t elaborate on whether existing power imbalances are addressed in such situations.
  • Modern Alternatives: Polygamy isn’t the only solution for marital dissatisfaction. In modern societies, couples often seek therapy or consider divorce before exploring polygamy.

4. Wealth and Honor:

  • Historical Context: The historical connection between polygamy and increased wealth and status is accurate. However, it’s important to acknowledge the potential downsides for women in such systems.
  • Modern Perspective: In many societies, individual achievements and personal wealth are valued more than family size.

5. All the Above:

The idea that people have multiple reasons for polygamy is valid. However, adding a section about the potential social, emotional, and economic challenges of polygamy would provide a more complete picture.

The Polygamist? However, not everyone, not every human being, must get married for the following reasons:

The text explores the reasons why some people might not choose to get married. Here’s a revised version with a more neutral and objective tone:

1. Diverse Paths to Love and Fulfillment:

People choose different paths in life, and marriage isn’t for everyone. Here are some reasons why individuals might not seek marriage:

  • Biological Variations: A small percentage of the population is born with intersex traits or experiences challenges with sexual function.
  • Individual Preferences: Some people prioritize personal freedom or same-sex relationships that may not be recognized by traditional marriage.
  • Asexuality: Asexuality is a natural variation in human sexual orientation where individuals experience little to no sexual attraction.

2. Medical Interventions and Considerations:

  • Involuntary Procedures: Historically, castration (creating eunuchs) was practiced in some cultures. This is a harmful procedure not to be condoned.
  • Reproductive Choices: Modern medicine offers contraception and sterilization options for individuals who choose not to have children. There are potential side effects, so discussing these options with a healthcare professional is crucial.
  • Limitations of Medicine: As with any medical intervention, medications and procedures may have unforeseen side effects.

3. The Importance of Informed Decisions

The text raises a valid point: medical interventions are not perfect, and open communication about potential risks and benefits is essential. Individuals should always consult with qualified healthcare providers before making choices about their bodies and reproductive health.

Conclusion

Marriage is a complex institution with diverse motivations across cultures and individuals. This article explored some reasons why people might choose polygamy, a marital structure where one person is married to multiple partners.

Key Points:

  • Varied Motivations: People may seek polygamy for reasons like having children, fulfilling emotional or physical needs, or achieving social status within their communities.
  • Historical Context: Polygamy has existed in various societies throughout history, often linked to cultural norms and religious beliefs.
  • Modern Considerations: In today’s world, polygamy is not legal or socially accepted in many regions. It’s important to consider the potential social, emotional, and economic challenges that polygamy can present.
  • Alternatives and Individual Choices: Couples facing marital difficulties often seek therapy or divorce before exploring polygamy. Ultimately, the decision to marry or not, and the form that marriage takes, is a personal one.

Further Exploration

If you’d like to learn more about polygamy, consider these resources:

  • Neutral Online Sources: Search for academic journals or reputable news articles that discuss polygamy from multiple perspectives.
  • Books by Anthropologists or Sociologists: These professionals study different cultures and social structures, and their work can provide valuable insights on polygamy.

Further Readings